How to Help an Anxious Rescue Dog

At least once a month, the rock quarry near our house does blasting. We usually hear a warning sound first, and then… BOOM. The entire house shakes.

Ginger immediately goes looking for somewhere to hide, usually under the bed, in our closet, or in the bathroom. Even after the blast is over, she can stay anxious for the rest of the day.

Wizard reacts completely differently. He hears the warning sound and starts pacing. When the blast hits, he barks.

That is two completely different reactions in the same house and to the same scary noise.

And that is one of the most important things I’ve learned about living with anxiety-prone dogs. There isn’t one solution that works for every dog. You have to learn what anxiety looks like for YOUR dog, what pushes them over their limit, and what helps them feel safe again.

Training can absolutely be part of that. But I look at anxiety through a much bigger lens… behavior, health, food, stress, environment, sleep, pain, routine, and the dog standing right in front of me.

What does anxiety look like in dogs?

Anxiety can be obvious. A dog may shake during a thunderstorm or hide when company comes over.

But the early signs are often much quieter. Watch for things like:

• panting when your dog isn’t hot
• pacing or restlessness
• lip licking or yawning
• suddenly becoming very still
• avoiding eye contact
• hiding or trying to escape
• trembling or shaking
• whining or barking
• refusing food
• becoming extra clingy
• destructive chewing or digging
• potty accidents
• growling, barking, or reacting when approached

This is why learning to read your dog’s body language is so important. Your dog is usually communicating that they are uncomfortable long before they reach the point of barking, lunging, hiding, or panicking.

Think of anxiety like an overwhelm bucket

One of the easiest ways I’ve found to think about anxiety is what I call the overwhelm bucket.

Every stressful experience adds a little bit to your dog’s bucket. And it doesn’t have to be something obviously bad.

A poor night of sleep. Visitors in the house. A loud truck outside. A change in routine. An upset stomach. A stressful walk. Another dog barking through the window.

One thing by itself might not seem like a big deal. But keep adding little things and eventually that bucket gets full.

That’s when you may suddenly see your dog pacing, barking, hiding, becoming clingy, refusing food, reacting to something they normally handle well, or simply having a hard time settling.

And sometimes we look at that last thing and think, “Why are you freaking out over THAT?”

But that one thing may have just been what finally overflowed the bucket.

I see this with Ginger after a quarry blast. The actual blast lasts only a few seconds, but she can stay nervous for hours afterward. Her bucket doesn’t suddenly empty just because the noise stopped.

That changes how I support her for the rest of the day. I may keep things quieter, put on calming music, give her a comfortable place to hide, use CBD, or simply avoid adding anything else stressful if I can.

The other side of the bucket is just as important. We can help lighten it with things like:

• quiet time and good sleep
• a predictable routine
• sniffing and decompression
• familiar food
• safe spaces
• slower introductions to new things
• play and activities your dog enjoys
• addressing pain or physical discomfort
• simply asking less of them on a hard day

This is also why looking at the whole dog is so important. Anxiety isn’t always about the one thing happening right now. Sometimes it’s the total load your dog has been carrying.

What causes anxiety in rescue dogs?

I used to spend too much time wondering what happened to a rescue dog before they came to us.

Was there trauma? Were they abused? Were they never socialized?

The truth is, most of the time we will never know their entire story. And we don’t need to know every detail before we can start helping them.

Anxiety can be connected to many things, including:

• moving into a new home
• unfamiliar people, dogs, sounds, and environments
• separation from their person
• thunderstorms, fireworks, construction, or other loud noises
• past frightening experiences
• lack of early socialization
• changes in routine
• pain or physical discomfort
• age-related changes
• accumulated stress

If you recently adopted your dog, remember that simply moving into your home is a huge life change. Giving your dog a smaller, quieter world while they decompress can make things much easier. My 3-3-3 Rule for rescue dogs is a good place to start if you are still in those first days or weeks.

And please don’t automatically assume every behavior problem is “just anxiety.”

Pain and medical conditions can show up as changes in behavior, including fear and anxiety-related behavior.

If your dog’s anxiety suddenly appears, becomes worse, or comes with other changes in appetite, digestion, sleep, movement, or personality, it’s time to take a closer look at your whole dog.

Looking at the whole dog

This is probably the biggest change in how I think about anxiety today.

Behavior and physical health do not live in separate little boxes.

If I’m looking at an anxious dog, I want to know more than what training they’ve tried.

How are they sleeping?

Do they have digestive problems?

Are they itchy all the time?

Could they be uncomfortable or in pain?

What are they eating?

How much downtime are they getting?

What does their environment look like?

How many stressful things happened before the one that finally pushed them over the edge?

There is also growing research looking at the relationship between the gut and the brain in dogs (the gut-brain axis). That doesn’t mean every anxious dog has a gut problem, and I would never assume anxiety can be solved by changing food alone. But it does give us another reason to pay attention when anxiety and chronic digestive issues seem to show up together.

This is what I mean when I talk about looking at the whole dog.

How to calm an anxious rescue dog

Create a safe space

Sometimes the best thing you can do is make your dog’s world smaller for a while.

Close the curtains. Move farther away from the barking dog. Skip the crowded event. Give your dog a quiet room when company comes over.

Management isn’t giving up on training. It keeps your dog from repeatedly being pushed into panic while you work on helping them feel differently about the trigger.

Catch anxiety early

Wizard is a perfect example.

If I know the quarry is blasting, I can prepare ahead of time. As soon as I hear the warning sound, I grab treats and turn it into a game.

We might practice a few tricks or play a game together.

By the time the blast comes, he is already engaged with me and something positive is happening.

But timing makes a difference. I can do this because I catch Wizard before his overwhelm bucket gets too full. If he were already panicking and unable to focus, I wouldn’t expect him to perform tricks. At that point, I’d stop asking things of him and focus on helping him feel safe and settle.

Use what YOUR dog loves

Ginger is 11 now and has no interest in doing the same type of play Wizard enjoys. But she loves food. So I can use treats with Ginger in situations where she is still calm enough to eat.

For another dog, the answer might be a favorite toy, sniffing for treats, gentle touch, or simply moving farther away.

There is no prize for using a particular training technique. Pay attention to what your dog is telling you.

Build positive associations slowly

When you are working on a specific fear, go slowly enough that your dog can still feel safe.

If your dog is scared of the front door, you don’t start by dragging them through it.

If your dog is terrified of strangers, you don’t take them to a crowded farmers market for “socialization.”

If they’re afraid of the car, you don’t start with an hour-long road trip.

Reward-based desensitization and counterconditioning gradually expose a dog to something they find scary at an intensity they can handle, while pairing that experience with something positive.

If car rides are one of your dog’s triggers, I have a separate step-by-step guide to dog car anxiety and motion sickness.

And if your dog tends to bark or lunge when overwhelmed, read my guide to understanding reactivity in dogs too. Anxiety and reactivity frequently overlap even though they are not exactly the same thing.

Build confidence through fun

Confidence work has been one of my favorite ways to help fearful and anxious dogs because it doesn’t have to feel like formal training.

Simple games teach your dog that interacting with you and exploring their world can be safe and fun.

And again… tailor this to your dog.

Wizard loves working and playing. Ginger will happily participate when food is involved. Your dog may love sniffing, searching, climbing onto something new, learning an easy trick, or playing with a toy.

If you want an easy place to start, grab my FREE 5 Days of Fun With Your Dog Challenge. You’ll get five simple confidence-building games you can do at home, even if your dog is shy or anxious.

Natural remedies for dogs with anxiety

I use natural calming support with my own dogs, especially when I know something stressful is coming.

But I don’t think of natural remedies as a replacement for figuring out why your dog is anxious. Think of them as another layer of support.

CBD oil

CBD is one of the tools I personally use most often.

If I know the quarry is blasting that day, I will sometimes give all of my dogs CBD beforehand. I also use it with Ginger for thunderstorms and other situations that I know are likely to push her anxiety higher.

Here is the brand I use and trust with my dogs.

There is encouraging research on CBD and stress in dogs, although the evidence is still developing and results haven’t been consistent in every study.

So I don’t look at CBD as a magic solution. It is one tool, and every dog responds differently.

Calming music

I use calming music with my dogs almost every day. It helps lower my own stress levels too!

Most of the time I simply pull up a calming dog playlist on Spotify and leave it playing in the background. I especially like using it when Ginger is already feeling anxious or when I know something stressful is coming.

Music can also help soften some of the unpredictable sounds outside, like thunderstorms, fireworks, construction, or people coming and going.

There is research showing that certain types of music may have a calming effect on dogs in stressful environments, although every dog is different.

Massage and calming touch

Massage is another thing I like to use with Ginger because she loves it. I can actually feel her body start to relax while I’m doing it.

Always pay attention to how your dog responds. Some dogs find touch relaxing when they’re worried, and others want space. Always let your dog make that choice.

If your dog moves away, becomes tense, turns their head, licks their lips, or otherwise tells you they don’t want to be touched… listen.

Essential oils and aromatherapy

I follow Dr. Janet Roark, DVM, of Essential Oil Vet for guidance on using essential oils with dogs.

One of her calming diffuser blends combines Copaiba, Lavender, and Vetiver in a water-based diffuser on an intermittent setting. Her pet-safe calming recommendations also include oils such as Roman Chamomile and specific calming blends.

Essential oils are powerful, so this is one area where I don’t recommend randomly grabbing oils from your cabinet because something online says they are “natural.”

Use pet-specific guidance, pay attention to proper dilution and method of use, and always give your dog the ability to move away from a diffuser.

Dog appeasing pheromones

I haven’t used pheromone products in a long time, but I wouldn’t rule them out.

Research has been mixed depending on the situation and product, although several controlled studies have found reductions in some fear and anxiety-related behaviors with dog appeasing pheromones.

I see this as another relatively simple tool you can try and then watch your dog. If it helps, great. If you see no difference, move on.

Rescue Remedy

I’ve tried Rescue Remedy too.

For my dogs, I have never found it strong enough when they’re dealing with significant anxiety. I could see trying it for mild nervousness, but I personally wouldn’t rely on it when a dog’s overwhelm bucket is already close to overflowing.

That is another good example of why you have to experiment and watch your dog instead of assuming a remedy should work because someone else loves it.

When natural support and training aren’t enough

For me personally, prescription anti-anxiety medication would not be my first choice.

But I also don’t believe a dog should be left living in a constant state of panic simply because we want to avoid medication.

There are dogs whose anxiety is severe enough that they can’t settle, eat normally, learn, or safely function in everyday life. In those situations, medication may be an important part of an overall plan.

The American Veterinary Society of Animal Behavior notes that medication may be necessary for serious behavior problems including severe fear, separation anxiety, and noise phobias, alongside behavior modification and environmental changes.

That decision should be made with your veterinarian or a veterinary behaviorist who can look at your dog’s individual situation.

I still want to look at the whole dog… physical health, pain, nutrition, stress, environment, behavior, and lifestyle. Medication can simply become one piece of that picture when it is truly needed.

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Your dog doesn’t need the same solution as my dog

Ginger and Wizard have made that very clear to me. Ginger hides. Wizard barks.

Wizard responds beautifully when I turn an incoming scary noise into a game. Ginger would rather have treats, a quiet place, some calming music, and sometimes a massage.

Neither response is wrong.

The more you learn to recognize what starts filling your dog’s overwhelm bucket, the easier it becomes to step in earlier. You can start reducing some of those stressors while figuring out what helps your dog feel safer and recover when life gets to be too much.

If your dog’s anxiety seems connected to other things too, like digestion, itching, sleep, pain, food, or chronic stress, and you’re having trouble figuring out where to start, that’s exactly what we can sort through together in Your Dog’s Wellness Game Plan.

And if you’re not ready for more support, start simple.

Pay attention to your dog’s signals. Notice what fills their bucket and what helps lighten it. You probably won’t be able to remove every stressful thing from their life… none of us can. But you can help keep that bucket from overflowing quite so often.

That’s where I would start.

For more help, keep reading…

• S.P.A.C.E. Trust Ladder: How to Build Real Trust with an Anxious Rescue Dog
• Rescue Dog Scared of Everything? How to Help
• Rescue Dog Separation Anxiety: Symptoms & Training
• Dog Car Anxiety and Motion Sickness: How to Help
• Fireworks Survival Guide for Dog Owners
• How to Read Your Dog’s Body Language